In this COVID times!

I know I am pretty much late (not actually; I am absolute late) to write about the current situation we (the whole world) all are facing. Actually, I can bank on the opportunity to write my blog post on this topic by saying that the pandemic is not yet over (Trust me! I am not at all delighted to say so (who on the earth would be), I’d have hoped to write the reverse 🙁). Also, I started my blog from June end (I wonder why I didn’t start to write blogs during lockdown period when I had ample of time 🤔 Please forget that for the time being, that’s another story). Let the excuses be over; now that I have started to write this post.

From the past few months, the whole world is facing a global epidemic out of nowhere. There was an article published in TOI which read “For the first time in history, every government on the planet has been set the same homework assignment at the same time.” It’s pretty much an apt expression, but it’s an unwanted and a surprise assignment for each and every individual on this planet and also for the respective governments. Even there is no scope of copying the assignment to gain full marks and come out of this pandemic, since no one knows the solution yet. Although, this is not the first pandemic in history; but surely a pandemic after a period of 100 years or so.

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My brother reminded us of the vision India had set named Vision 2020 for the country two decades ago; under the leadership of the late President of India and a brilliant scientist Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam. Nobody knew then that after two decades, India along with all the countries will have to face such a pandemic situation.

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The current pandemic gave rise to the discovery of some words which are flashing in our minds every moment (as all of us know already):

Coronavirus (COVID-19; SARS COV-2)
Pandemic
PPE kit
Sanitization
Lockdown
Quarantine
Isolation
& Lastly “THE VACCINE” (a safe vaccine for which we are waiting in anticipation)

Most of the countries in the world (including India with a population of 1.3 billion) were compelled to enforce a complete lockdown in the interest of their own people. Now, almost all the countries are in the unlock phase; with some countries again enforcing local lockdowns to contain the spread. During the lockdown period, all the trades, businesses, industries, etc. came to a standstill and had to bear a huge loss. Even as people faced financial losses, the lockdown phase brought some happiness in the family by cherishing the little moments with family and devoting time to analyze self; to bring about a change and develop our personality. Mostly, all of us played indoor games (Board and card games) which we never played after our childhood, practiced yoga/meditation, carried out cleaning works (since all the maids were on a holiday and that sanitization is the most important part nowadays), planted new trees in the garden, watched Netflix and other TV shows, read books, attended webinars on various topics, baked many cakes and tried new recipes, cherished watching old family pics album, pursued an old hobby (painting, singing, dancing etc.) and the list is never ending. So, all in all that was a pretty different lifestyle adopted in the lockdown period, which provided a much-needed break from the busy (nowadays one cannot say so) schedule.

Having said that, there were many of my friends and relatives who were working continuously for their company during this period too. Yes, we cannot forget all the essential and frontline helath workers in this pandemic situation. But here, I am referring to the ones who stayed and worked from home (and are still working from home). Almost all the offices have started in the unlock phase, but the whole IT sector and design company employees are still working from home. In the pre-Covid period (yes, this is what it’s called nowadays), working from home was not permitted easily. But, after the lockdown was imposed countrywide; the only option was to work from home.

Work from home has many advantages and disadvantages for the employers and the employees. Firstly, this situation was a surprise for all; so don’t want to blame anybody for the same but thought of sharing some points. The lockdown unfortunately compelled many employers to suspend or fully terminate many jobs. Some lucky ones got a place after one or two months to fill the voids due to workload, but couldn’t suffice all. Many companies couldn’t continue with their current clientele. Some companies had to switch to other roles to meet the rolling demands of their company (like for example, a company dealing with paints also manufactured sanitizers in order to meet the supplementary demands). This, in turn proved to be challenging for the employees working from home who don’t know anything about the new product. Working from home also proved to be a challenge for the managers working in an organization to monitor the subordinates work through zoom meetings, calls and mails. The working teams were downsized, putting stress on the existing teams to carry out the extra work by devoting extra hours (which was extremely difficult for married ladies in addition to household chores). Employees too cannot say no or quit the existing job in this situation adding to their stress and anxiety. I think all the managers and employers should monitor the situation closely by not adding extra pressure on employees and disturbing the work-life balance in this pandemic situation. All in all, working from home didn’t quiet turned out to be fun but stressful on both the ends. I don’t think anybody will opt to work from home in the near future.


We all writers in this Blogosphere (including me, of course) have mentioned expressions from the past few months; in this lockdown period/ in this pandemic situation/ in these uncertain times often in our articles. I think some good things that are achieved due to coronavirus such as reduction of carbon emissions, appreciation of health workers and grocery dealers who were taken for granted in this society, breaking the busy routine and having a me and family time, clear water in lakes and canals (In India, all the Ganesh idols in the Ganeshotsav festival 2020 were immersed in artificial tanks/wells unlike immersion in lakes/sea every year and the size of idols was also restricted), digitization etc. should not be restricted to this lockdown period alone. These practices should continue after this whole situation is brought under control for the well-being of people and society as a whole.

Sorry for the so so long post (P.S: Had a lot in mind, but this topic is endless unlike Covid-19 which should end ASAP). Thanks for reading!

©Proxywords – Ashish Madan Kale

Mystery Blogger Award!

So, this post was never on my list and suddenly I was nominated for Mystery Blogger Award. All thanks to Pragya Khokar (immortalwords0802.wordpress.com) for nominating me for first such award, it really means a lot to me. Please do check her blog!

Rules:

  1. Put the award logo on your blog.
  2. Thank the blogger who nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
  3. Mention the creator of the award.
    This award was created by Okoto Enigma. Check out her blog.
  4. Answer the questions you were asked.
  5. Tell the readers three things about you.
  6. Nominate 10-20 bloggers.
  7. Notify the bloggers (tell them you nominated them) by commenting on one of their posts.
  8. Ask your nominees five questions with one weird or funny one.
  9. Share a link to your best posts.

Pragya’s Questions:


1.Which country and place do you belong to?
👉 Nagpur, India ❤️

2.Would you like to go invisible or read others’ minds?
👉 It depends actually. If I can read one person’s mind at a time, then it’s fine. But if I have to read multiple minds at the same instance, that would be a mess and then surely I would prefer to be invisible from all the people and society 😊

3.Describe your blog shortly?
👉 My blog is all about thoughts or issues faced by majority of us in some way or the other, put together to find solutions which can directly or indirectly help someone achieve their goal. 🙂

4.What would you prefer-tea or coffee?
👉 This one is a bit tricky question for me as I love both tea and coffee. 😍 I just cannot be partial when one is asking me to choose between the two. So, I am unable to find a justified answer to this question.

5.Phobia for any object or situation that disturbs you very much?
👉 I don’t understand when people say I am not scared of heights, deep water, deep valleys etc. I think all this is lie, as I have a phobia of all these things. Everyone is scared at some point of time (at least I think so 😬).

My questions for the nominees are same as I can’t think of any other at this point of time.

I wish I could tag and nominate all the awesome people out there but then here are few of them:

https://subtlespells.wordpress.com/

https://offshorewritings.com/

https://whatareuuptoduringthelockdown.wordpress.com/

https://illustratedbyhannah.wordpress.com/blog/

https://karlien09.wordpress.com/

https://bartaulasudeep129blogspot.wordpress.com/

https://beautifulpeopleinc.com/

https://poetrylance.wordpress.com/

The links to my best posts (If you haven’t read already):

Capriciousness – https://wp.me/pc8pKn-1i

I’ve failed in life!https://wp.me/pc8pKn-1x

I’ve failed in life!

A moment came;
I failed in life.

That made me think again,
From my childhood till now,
I’ve failed in my life.

I began to question my own existence
and thought of ending my life.
With the only thought running through my mind;
I’ve failed in life.

Nobody wanted to see me grow like this;
Right from when I was a child.
The mischiefs I did,
Were the mistakes of my life.
I’ve failed in life.

I should have scored good
to meet the expectation of my parents.
The pages of the book I turned
Were never the pages of my life?
I’ve failed in life.

My relatives wanted to see me become
A Doctor, Scientist or an Engineer!
but I chose to make people smile;
By not becoming a joker;
But a photographer.
Which was a mistake of my life
I’ve failed in life!

I applied and got a good job
amongst the mob;
rather than joining the family business
and diverting my mind in this rife.
I’ve failed in life.

Fell in love with a lovely girl;
And such was our relationship,
We had vowed for our lifelong support
But she could never become my wife.
I’ve failed in life.

I bundled these failures in my mind
and decided to end my life.
You don’t repeat the same mistake
Else;
You will fail in life!

P.S. – This is my first attempt to write a poem, so please bear with me if there are any grammatical or typing errors. Suggestions and thoughts are always welcomed!

Capriciousness !!

The words – irrational, whimsical, capricious; all are branches of the same tree. These words are always perceived in a negative manner. Yes, they may sound negative with the use in our daily life; all of them can be attributed to a single feeling i.e. mood swings.


We often use the term “mood swing” very casually in our daily life. Mood swings are often correlated to as a roller coaster ride. The roller coaster ride still has a starting and an end point, unlike mood swings which don’t have a definite ending.

Almost everybody in this world have mood swings in a way or other. Right from a small child to powerful leaders like Hitler; everybody has their own mood swings. In the lockdown period, it is pretty much justified to have mood swings while we are under continuous threat, stress and depression. It’s often said that women have more mood swings than men; to some extent it’s true as they undergo more rapid hormonal changes compared to men. But, both men and women have mood swings owing to hormonal changes, stress, depression, lack of sleep etc. So are these mood swings pretty much normal and a part of our modern lifestyle?

Well, it certainly depends on the situations in and around you.

Just think you didn’t have enough sleep at night since you were texting someone special the previous night (shhh…. Yes, that will be a secret with me!) and your mom suddenly wakes you up early in the morning. Ultimately, you wake up in a bad mood. Then, you carry out your regular chores – have your perfect cup of tea/coffee (made by your mom), get ready after a cool shower on a sunny day and you feel fresh. After reaching your workplace, you have to attend to your boss and he gives you a list of unlimited tasks to carry out in a day itself. You feel very stressed and annoyed at your boss for assigning loads of work. But then, a short tea/coffee break with your favorite colleague at work provides you the much-needed motivation to complete the tasks. You finally complete your work and leave for the day and reach home (where your family is waiting for you) with no worries of work.

That’s what you would say at the EOD after facing all the ups and downs throughout the day!

So the situations are normal, but are these mood swings acceptable? It completely depends on the frequency of the mood swings and the person you are with. They are normal so long it does not affect you and the surrounding people.

One of my relative was working in a top MNC. She was a humble, sincere and dedicated employee of theirs. Everything was going normal other than promotions because of all the regular politics in a top brass company, yet she was happy as she was doing the job she loved. She went to office the other day and was called on by the boss. She was immediately handed a termination letter without being informed the reason. She immediately called upon her higher ups to know the reason but to no avail. Neither the boss owed an explanation. Thus, she was a victim of boss’ capriciousness.

Mood swings are sometimes good and sometimes bad. If a woman is in her pregnancy and she has her mood swings, it’s considered normal and her man handles her mood swings in a very playful way. Similarly, in a friendship/relationship the other person who has committed to stand beside them in all of their moods and/or situations can handle their mood swings respectfully. But when we are interacting with a third person and imposing our mood swings on them, they might not take it in a playful and friendly way and it may disturb you and the people around you. Also, the mood swings are good till they are not frequent. If they are periodic, it may be a symptom of mental illness or something more serious.
So what can be done?
You just have to stay in a good mood all day?
No! That’s practically impossible. We cannot always be in a good mood, all we can do is:
Lead a good and healthy lifestyle
Don’t be sleep deprived
Take adequate rest
Share your ideas/thoughts with your family and friends

Let me know your thoughts and your mood swings!

Birth-days’…..

What’s on my mind?

Am I going crazy here?

There are no birthdays’, every creature on this earth celebrates only a single day every year –their birthday.

But wait, here I have purposely split birthday with a hyphen. So, Birth-days’ refer to the days after our birth; it may be any number of days which are gracefully inscribed in our destiny or the time we are on earth to make the most of the lovely gift called life.

While I was deciphering above thoughts; a thought came through my mind of the fallen apple on Sir Isaac Newton’s head (I know a very cliché thought but that’s what we have been listening to from our childhood). As history reveals, the apple fell on the head of young Isaac Newton that prompted him to come up with the law of gravity. The purpose of life of that apple which fell on Newton’s head was accomplished. While the purpose of the apple was accomplished, it could happen only after the birth of the apple (from the apple seed planted). The birth of that apple was the beginning of its journey towards its final goal.

Birth- a lovely gift for a person /a thing to begin their wonderful journey!

The growth of a plant from the seed also marks the birth of the fruits that the tree will bear in the future. When a woman gives birth to a child, the birth marks the beginning of his/her journey towards his/her life and hence we celebrate the first birthday, so is the case with marriage anniversaries and so on. Then, the question arises; why do we celebrate it every year? We have already celebrated the beginning of our life. Yes, but celebrating a birthday every year is not just cutting a cake and meeting friends for the sake of celebration, it’s a day between the past and future to remind us the purpose of our birth.

Birth is a beginning,
And death a destination
But life is a journey,
A sacred pilgrimage
Made stage by stage—
From birth to death
To life everlasting.

  • Source (from Gates of Prayer: The New Union Prayer Book)

These words also state the journey of life is achieved in stages.

The first birthdays, anniversaries, institution foundation days are celebrated in a grand manner like there is no tomorrow. The celebration observes a decreasing trend as years’ progress which shouldn’t be a thing. When we were young, we were fond of celebrating our birthdays and as we get older, we don’t celebrate since we are afraid we will not be able to live the past again. We should never be afraid of the past yet ready to serve the ultimate goal.

Mythology also reflects the same in a way: Lord Vishnu reincarnated in different avatars to serve a definite purpose. Lord Vishnu took birth in various forms to accomplish the purpose of lives of all the avatars. The only difference in this analogy is that we don’t know the purpose of our life initially, but as the stages in our life progress, we become more aware of the purpose of life.  

We can’t predict how many days we have from the day of our birth, but we can surely make everyday count for the wonderful life and enjoy our birthday every year with the same zeal and enthusiasm. That is the only reason we celebrate our date of our birth viz. birthday and not birth year since it comes each year.

So, “don’t count the days after your birth, make the days’ count”.

Friends – With you, for you and a part of you!

“Friends” – a word which we utter, write and listen indefinitely in our lifetime.

In the 21st century, as we hear the term friends, the first thing that strikes through is the famous web series F.R.I.E.N.D.S. The title of this web series always puts you in a fix. Why there are full stops in between all these words? The title should just be friends and not F.R.I.E.N.D.S. Right? There are many theories to justify the title and every theory is right in its own way.

If you ask me, I would rather relate the full stops to different phases of life. The title thus refers to friends we meet in all walks of our life. From our childhood, to schooling, college, office and retirement; we make new friends one by one but also don’t miss out on our old friends.

It is just like tying the links of a chain and not breaking the chain. All links are equally important to form the everlasting chain. Who will know better what it feels like even if one links of the chain is missing than me! I lost a strong link of my chain, my close friend a year before in an accident. We don’t know when the links will break and go away, but always have the opportunity to create a good chain of links in the first place. That’s what we should be grateful for!

In this era, to find good and true friends is the key to happy life. In this technology driven world, we are surrounded by “many” online(bad) and “some” of our offline(good) friends.

The reason I have quoted good and bad in parenthesis is that mostly offline friends are easy to meet, greet and have a one-to-one conversation unlike online ones.

The success mantra to find good friends is to ensure there is a two-way traffic in your friendship. Your friends are not true friends; If they are not with you in your tough times when you need them the most; if they are only in friendship for the sake of their own benefits and turn a blind eye when they are not gaining from the situations, and lastly if they are not a part of all the ups and downs in your life.
In short, true friends are “With you, for you and a part of you.”

So don’t miss out on any of them!

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